The Importance of Spiritual Mothers

When I was 18 years old, I lost my mother to breast cancer. Prior to the day her spirit left this earth, she had been my confidant, my role model, my best friend. Saying goodbye to her was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life.

Shortly after her death I became aware of this nagging void in my life, an urge to attach myself to any woman that could offer me anything remotely close to what I had with my mother. To be the recipient of the outpourings of someone's heart for years only to have it abruptly end one day can leave anyone quite bewildered.

Iron sharpening iron

During that season of my life, God connected me with a dear friend and mentor who was the faculty advisor for the campus ministry I was involved with. She was only ten years older than me, but she had a strong relationship with the Lord and a love for

Shades of Grey or NOT

Today many of us may ask ourselves who is the right one for me? Who has God chosen for me? How will I know if He is the one for me when there are so many options around me? Or maybe you have someone in mind, you would like to spend the rest of your life with and wonder if this is the man God had sent for you. The peer pressure of settling down when all your friends are living the dream you’ve always dreamed of is making you vulnerable and weak which urges you to find answers to these questions.

Sometimes the wait can be scary. The wait knowing you trust the Lord, but along with the fear of what if God trusts you more than you think He would by laying a difficult path ahead of you. Maybe a stretch of long singleness, or a marriage with someone who is difficult to live with, but making it work with the help of God to be a testimony one day. It is not wrong to think like that or feel that way. It is similar to you being in a situation where you are all by yourself waiting for a train. Yet for some unknown reason it’s delayed and taking longer than you expected . You are caught  wondering , why is it taking so long, panicking if you by any chance missed the train, or are in the wrong station. Eagerly and anxiously you are looking for someone in that station to answer your questions.

Then the station manager comes looking for any passengers for this train to inform them about the delay. His words that confirm the delay suddenly soothes you, it helps you even better when He assures you the train will be there, it’s just a matter of time. Oh! What a sigh of relief!

Similarly, today Gods promises come to you assuring you that He will bring the right guy to you. It’s just a matter of TIME. 
 May be you planned to be married to the guy who carried every attribute of your checklist or someone who could come close enough to make you compromise on a few of them. (My thought on checklist- DON’T HAVE ONE, because, Our checklist is nothing compared to God’s Checklist) And today , you may find yourself not exactly where you plan to be. In fact may you may be far from it. Truth is – you are exactly where you are supposed to be.   It is a grey phase that you are in right now. You are stuck between your dreams and the reality you are in now. And it all seems grey when you mix them up giving you a different perspective of the picture. 


We have to understand that God has it covered for you! It’s something so simple. He is the writer of your love story!  One which is already written . He knows you inside out, because He has created you. He knows you like hazelnut ice cream better than butter scotch. He knows you prefer caramelized popcorn over any other flavor of its kind, there is no doubt He will not  miss out on the guy who is right for you. Certainly not! He keeps in mind everything you dreamed of. 


He is the author, and  right now  the story is about you , it’s not time yet for the Prince to make his grand entry. 

Take for instance the fairy tales we watch or even your favorite romantic movie, the story starts to portray the Princess or the leading lady of the movie. What kind of woman is she? She is kind, loving, she likes to read a lot, or she likes to sing. She is living a difficult life but she still chooses happiness over her hopeless situation. It’s all about her.  Every trial she is put in, portrays a wonderful character trait about herself. 

To many of you today, I would like to encourage you to not give up on you happiness or lower your expectations by the standards of this world, but lift them up to God in prayer.  Remove the glasses of uncertainty and doubt and the persistent urge of trying to figure  God’s master plan for you , because the key lies in not trying to figure it out but to live your part of the story, and you will see it  with purpose, with full of possibilities to reflect who you are from where you are and that in turn will take you to where you want to be!
As rightly written in Kenny Damara’s Book Divided Desires, “ When a person is the friend of God, he knows God so well that the granting of the deepest desire of his heart , are not a matter of “hows , and buts , and ifs,” it’s just a matter of “when.”


But here is the good news, in God’s plan for you and for me,  there are no shades of grey. It is simple and clear, either black or white. Our God is an Absolute God.  He keeps it simple. Nowhere in the bible it is  written – “Figure it out” . Or solve it. He is simply asks you to trust Him , His plans for you . The promise of granting the desires of your heart. So don’t live in the shade of grey.  Define it, don’t let it define you. Don’t put your hopes in a “MAYBE-GUY” , put it in YES and AMEN.  I couldn’t less agree with what’s on your mind right now, it’s easier said than done.  Being God’s children, we know what to do, we have the answers, but the struggle is – how do we live by it. How to get out of the grey phase and feel right about being where we are right now? 

Would you take a moment now and think, who you are and what defines you?  If you are in your single phase, then you are in making of a masterpiece and God is shaping you and bringing out the best in you. If you were in your own movie He is making you look good to you audience right now. You are being prepared  to receive your promise, your blessing, your life partner. There also comes a part about the Prince or the guy who the leading lady is meant to be with.  His charming good  looks , his fighting and horse riding skills, and how he stands out from the rest or the guy from your favorite romantic movies , who is more than what he looks like . If only  we could see our lives like a movie! But that is where our faith is tested. How much do we trust our father in Heaven? How much do we trust Him to grant the desires of our heart? How much are we trying to get it ourselves or how much are we willing to wait to receive it from God and wait for His time? How much do you trust that God will bring Him to you? Just as God brought Rebekah to Isaac.

I know we all want answers, but then there won’t be a story worth telling! God will reveal it to you in your understanding, it won’t be a shade of grey then. It will be simple and clear.

To many of you today, I would like to encourage you to not give up on you happiness or lower your expectations by the standards of this world, but lift them up to God in prayer.  Remove the glasses of uncertainty and doubt and the persistent urge of trying to figure  God’s master plan for you , because the key lies in not trying to figure it out but to live your part of the story, and you will see it  with purpose, with full of possibilities to reflect who you are from where you are and that in turn will take you to where you want to be!

As rightly written in Kenny Damara’s Book Divided Desires, “ When a person is the friend of God, he knows God so well that the granting of the deepest desire of his heart , are not a matter of “hows , and buts , and ifs,” it’s just a matter of “when.”

Neeta loves the Lord and enjoys having  him as a best friend because it makes every experience her life worth cherishing!  She is a published writer of a book called, “Reflections of a Changed Life” published by OM Books.  Currently she works as a finance Analyst for Deloitte in India. She has a heart  for broken people and the brokenness they struggle with. Instagram | Email