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A couple of
friends of mine have recently started dating. Contrary to how society would
paint the picture of the single friend in a group of friends who are all in
relationships, I don’t feel any envy, bitterness or jealousy. Gone are the feelings
of self-loathing where I’d grab the magnifying glass and desperately ask God to
help me in my analysis of what was or still is wrong with me. It hasn’t always
been this way; in fact there are days where God has to strongly remind me that
He created me to be more than someone’s girlfriend or wife. How often do we
hear that in society though?
Two weeks
ago I was at church and the pastor shared very briefly about how when she was
single, she felt as though she was missing something and was at the end of her
rope, then a week later at a wedding I attended, another pastor asked all the
single people to stand up and those who didn’t stand were told that they’d miss
out on their blessing. We tread on dangerous territory when we allow the
standards and expectations of society to dictate the words that are spoken in
the church. Nowhere in the Bible does Christ say we will miss our blessing if
we’re single, in fact in the book of 1 Corinthians 7:40, Paul tells us that in
his opinion it would be better to remain single.
